Think of the moment where you picture your lover in your head. And suddenly it hits you. “I could lose this person to someone better than me”. And now all you can think of is this fear. The fear of losing someone you really love.
But how can you lose something, that isn’t even yours? Let’s say you go to a store and buy a computer for yourself. Whenever you buy something you have there is a chance to lose that object or that it will get taken from you. But a human is not an object. We are not the owner of human beings. We didn’t buy this person, we didn’t create this person nor do we possess them. So we can’t “lose” this person.
Meanwhile, we are comparing ourselves to other people. Thinking to us: “She is way smarter than me”, “He has bigger muscles than me”, “She is so much prettier than me”, etc. All this comparing comes close to owning a fully functioning car, which only looks at other cars. “That car has better tires than me”, “That car has better windows”, “A better engine”. And in the end, it doesn’t drive. The point is it doesn’t matter. The importance is in the total package.
Whether you are smart, good-looking, or have big muscles, is irrelevant. What is the best car without an engine? What is a car good for without an aim? Without a direction? Why does that person get into the car? Why does the person choose to sit in your car? Does that mean you own that person? Wasn’t it rather the own will of that person to sit in that car of yours? Because the destination lies in the same direction. And when the time comes that that person decides to leave your car, is it on you to stop that person? Let that person go who stepped into your life of their own free will and decided to leave by their own free will.
The paint of your car is your looks. The engine represents your morals and your principles. And the route you are driving is nothing else than your life. The total package is what counts.
Harry August 