Everyone from time to time gets told to “be yourself!”, but that is a lie. The problem we phase with this statement is that if you are in a bad position would it really be the best to be yourself? If you are struggling to get your ass up and only procrastinate, watching a Netflix series, while only eating pizza and drinking soda, do you believe it’s best to be yourself? Imagine there is a person. The person lazes around the whole day, watching Netflix, sleeping, eating pizza, and does nothing else. No work, no household, no urge to do something. And now imagine that person is your girlfriend. The person you decided to bring into your life is a mess, who you maybe want to spend the rest of your life with. Your partner is procrastinating and you think to yourself you have to accept her she is right? But deep down you know it’s against you, all these bad habits are not helping they are against your drive to strive for a productive life.
You decide to stay quiet because it is the best for your partner, but you suffer from that chaos. You remain silent even though you know that this is not good for you and you develop the feeling of unhappiness and dissatisfaction. The second option is you could decide to leave her. You think someday this isn’t it and decide to leave. Or maybe she could leave you because you are the one “being yourself” and doing nothing.
The last option is you work on yourself. You both decide this isn’t what I want, this is not who I want to be, in a reasonable and respectful tone and communicate with each other. Because if you want to be successful, have a positive and strong mindset, a strong physique, master your relationships and your time, do NOT be yourself. Don’t be yourself. Be the best you, you can be. Strive for the best version of yourself constantly.
If you ask yourself:” Why should I workout, dress better, wear perfume? Why should I work on myself? If she/he really loves me he/she will accept me the way I am.” That is straight-up bullshit. If you truly think that way you will have to be ready to settle for low life quality. Because if you really want to be in a healthy relationship and find the right partner for you, you have to pay the price and adapt yourself. Don’t be, but adapt yourself. Because in this world there are things that are predetermined and you can not control the circumstances so take control of your life and adapt to it. It is not the smartest nor is it the smartest who survives it is the one who adapts.
If you want to eat steak, but the only thing you keep cooking is noodles you will never get the steak out of noodles. If you want to be a healthy body, a strong mindset, be successful in your profession, if you want to have all these things but put in nothing at all hoping it will be enough, guess what! You won’t achieve anything. You can’t expect a Lamborghini from a mini job loan. You have to step up your game and sacrifice “being yourself” to become what you want to be. So listen to me if I say: Do not be yourself.
Harry August 