66. Scientists say that is the number of days you need to inherit a habit. How do you keep up for 66 days? How do I get to inherit habits?
“Some people just seem to have it and some don’t“. Is that true? In my opinion, there are two kinds of people. The ones getting pushed around and the other ones pushing their way through life. If you don’t believe and see yourself achieving your goals or worse don’t even have one, you probably won’t make it to the end. If you wanted to change the habit of your sleeping pattern for example and you set it to your mind of waking up at 6am every morning do you really think you will stay up until 2am? Set your priorities straight. You will do everything in your power to wake up at 6am, which also means that you will think of a time you go to sleep. You have to dedicate your life to your goal. That’s the first thing you have to do: Get your mind to it!
Step 2: Congratulations, you made it! You start and 2 days after trying you kinda lose your focus and start slacking off. I hope that doesn’t happen if you understood step 1, but it happens. So after you started your journey you need to keep track of your habit to overview your success. Punish and reward yourself for your behavior and be consequent. Also, it is very important, to be honest with yourself. Let a friend watch over your behavior and punish or reward you, because it is scientifical proven, that we tend to be more committed if someone watches us.
Through trying to adapt a habit you’re leaving your comfort zone. Usually, humans hate to leave the comfort zone, but there is the most growth that we achieve through new experiences and adventures. We learn what we don’t like and what brings us joy. Leaving your comfort zone expands your comfort zone. So make sure your punishment is way out of your comfort zone. It needs to be something that really hurts. For example, you get on someone’s nerves and you get hit for it, you won’t try to get on his nerves twice. Because the punishment was way worse than the reward. And that if you transport that principle you won’t have problems getting your achievements done. Or you will have a lot more problems according to how much the punishment hurts you and how you set your priorities.
Also, set yourself a reward. In my opinion, the reward is more important then the punishment, because when the punishment is the harsh reality you get confronted with, if you don’t draw through, the reward is the dream you have, the vision. It is easier to know why you’re doing what you’re doing and most importantly it sets positive associations with the habit. That way you will like the habit more.
<<<Consistency
Remind yourself regularly why you started and why you want to achieve the habit. Imagine the scenarios when you make it and the feeling you will get from it. Make as many positive connections as you can with the habit, so your mind will adapt to that habit, and someday your habit will become like brushing your teeth. You don’t have to think about the reason why you brush your teeth you just do it. And that’s the reason why you prevent getting any caries. Consistency is the most important thing that matters trying to achieve a habit and thus you need to keep reminding yourself of the reason, the meaning behind all your struggle. Your mind needs justification and a vision for all the struggles. If you had a few successful experiences you will enter the flow and you will have fun and finding more and more reasons for your journey of success, even if they are just little things, they trim you automatically to a pleasant direction.
Don’t fear failure. Fear stagnancy. Keep moving forward. Every day is a new day and every day is the first day.
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Harry August 